Dear Men,
Women are different. In case you didn't already know this, we are. I'm writing this to hopefully shed light on some things that you might not already know about us.
Men lust physically, women lust emotionally. While you (from what I'm told) lust after a women for sex, we lust after men to fulfill our emotional needs. Now this is not ALWAYS the case, but frequently when talking to boys, or after we talk to them, we imagine what it would be like to date them. To talk to them. To get to know them. And, after a few seconds, we imagine what it'd be like to marry them. How we'd interact. What we'd name our kids. What color our house would be, etc.
As women we want to be known. We want to be cherished. We want to be loved. We desire emotional attachment. So, while it's not as obvious, we lust too. Chick flicks play on this by painting a picture of love that seems perfect. They play with our hearts, tempting us and leading us to desire love even more by the end. Sometimes, even leading to physical heartache at the lack of love life that we may possess at that given time. Romance novels are in the same boat.
This isn't to say that women don't lust physically as well. It can be a struggle from time to time, it just isn't to the same level that you do.
We give our hearts away way too easily, so be gentle.
Help us: Now that you know, how can you help? Be careful with how you interact with us. Pursue if you're going to pursue, and be very up front about just being friends if that's what it is. We over analyze everything. Be intentional. Be careful with how much time you spend with us. Just be up front with your intentions. We appreciate it. Respect us. Don't flirt unless you mean it. Pray for us, as we pray for you. Be humble when it comes to your bodies. We admire men who are fit, but don't flaunt it.
That girl you're talking to? She's someone else's wife.
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